1. Lovebumble - the Right Service for You?

You can find innumerable dating sites on the internet. It's up to you to chose the one that suits your needs best. The services can be categorized in the following way: partner search, contacts, flirting, blind dates, casual affairs, traveling. There are also agencies that cater towards specific groups or interests (e.g. Eastern European agencies, agencies for farmers, vegetarians etc).

Lovebumble is a highly reputable but innovative online relationship forum that distinguishes itself from other online dating sites by providing a committed matching service that is geared towards people who are looking for a new long-term relationship and who are willing to reveal their values and attitudes to potential partners.

You have multifarious life experiences?
Certain values and life goals are important to you?
You are looking for a new love relationship?
You can do without getting hundreds of useless, time-consuming suggestions and unsuitable contact offers?
You would like a professional, well-organized online-service that helps you save time?

A new love relationship is like a journey to an unknown land. If you are ready to enter a new world not just in your love relationship, joining the Lovebumble Dating Club with its efficient and goal-oriented matching procedures is the right choice for you.

2. Check Your Luggage

A new love relationship is like a journey to an unknown land. To start a long-term relationship-journey means to venture into unknown possibilities and experiences. The good news: once you have decided to leave, you'll inevitably end up at a different place from where you began. Some people decide on their journey quite on impulse: "I want to leave this relationship behind. I never want to go through anything like that again." Others start their trip with tears in their eyes: "It was so wonderful. But now it's over."

When you enter a new love-relationship, your personal convictions and attitudes accompany you. Everybody has his or her individual baggage to carry along. How heavy or light this baggage feels, depends completely on you. Our love checklist may be helpful for you if you want to find out the following:

Am I ready to go on this trip? Which empowering convictions and attitudes can I take along?
Which convictions and attitudes do I want to revive?

3. Safety on the Way

From the beginning of your Lovebumble membership until your first date as well as later, when you are on your trip together with other Lovebumble members, your safety is of utmost importance to us. Don't give out too much information about yourself at the beginning (such as full name, phone number, personal e-mail address). Use a more anonymous communication forum and internet chat at the beginning. Meet for your first date in a public setting. Trust your instinct, your gut feeling, as well as the vibes you get during the first conversation. If something doesn't feel right, take this inner message seriously. Be careful and on guard.

4. How to Create an Attractive Personal Profile

Your personal profile is one of the key factors in finding a long-term relationship. Your description will play a crucial role in whether someone else will get interested in you and find you attractive. Make sure your profile is written in a lively and positive way. Avoid negative and impersonal statements. What is it that makes you unique? Instead of saying, "I love art," when asked about your leisure activities, write which work of art has moved you most recently and describe the feelings you had when you were looking at it.

Be spontaneous as well as honest. Imagine that what you reveal in writing about your self is directed towards someone who will soon come to know (and, hopefully, love) you. Get personal: direct your writing systematically to your future partner.

Use the feedback you get from other members to keep editing and improving your personal profile.

5. Profile Photo

The photo you see of another club member is partly responsible whether you pursue a suggested contact information that you find interesting. Likewise, your picture is an important trigger that encourages other members to get in touch with you. It is therefore crucial that you chose carefully the colors, clothes, and background s that are most effective. Get several interesting pictures of yourself made and then ask your friends to help you select the one that is most representative.

6. Efficient and Respectful Communication

When you write the first message to another club member that interests you, the air is full of hope and suspense. The first contact will partly decide whether you receive an answer from the other person and if so, what kind. Compose a personal beginning. Ask questions that the personal profile of the other member suggests. Show that you are interested in the other person's interests - and be open for any kind of surprise.

If you decide to end a contact, inform the other person respectfully of your decision. Don't just "disappear." Use the Lovebumble feedback form in order to make suggestions and to emphasize some of the positive qualities you noticed.

7. Cheating and Half-Truths

Half truths come in several guises. For example, people may use a photo for their personal profile that is several years old or they may lie about their age, interests or circumstances. Remember that lies like these may later spoil your chances to establish a relationship that is built on closeness, mutual trust and authenticity. Be as honest as you can. Your honesty will ensure that the Lovebumble Club will become known for its reputable and committed members.

8. Married Singles

When consulting the existing dating sites, you always run the risk of establishing contact with someone who is actually married and only pretends to be single. It has been estimated that about 20% of the men who are registered as "single" on various online dating sites are married. Pretending to be single while actually having a spouse usually leads to disappointments and difficulties.
The Lovebumble team would like to appeal to all members to be honest about their marital status: only if you are fair and honest to yourself and to other members can disappointment and emotional harm be avoided. There is nothing wrong with people falling in love who are presently in an unhappy marriage or other unfulfilled legal relationship. However, the new love relationship will be a lot more joyful and rewarding if both partners are aware of the facts.

Of course, Lovebumble is not in a position to guarantee that only real singles join the club. If you suspect that one of the "singles" is actually married, do not hesitate to demand proof or his or her marital status. Trust your instinct! Be assertive and feel free to ask for an ID (for example, a driver's license) to make sure the name the other person is using is correct.

9. How to Make the First Date as Successful as Possible

It is usually during the first few minutes of the first meeting that you form a lasting image of the other person. The first impression is crucial: it is very hard to change it afterwards.
Being optimistic is attractive - stay that way!
Ask questions and listen! Let things unfold themselves - or maybe get inventive: try out something new and discover your new partner that way.
Be attentive and listen to your inner voice, your gut-feeling.
Avoid talking about your ex during your first date!
If you enjoy the first meeting, tell him or her so!
If you are interested in a long-term relationship, take your time: no need to jump straight into bed.

Center yourself before - and, whenever possible, also during - your date. Pay attention to your breath while you are sitting or standing: feel the air flowing in an out, expanding your abdomen and chest.

You can practice in the peace and quiet of your home to be fully in the present moment: to be aware of your body and feel your personal power. You will then be more and more able to stay centered even during the excitement of a first encounter. This will allow you to establish a connection with your partner in a mindful and attentive way and to fully evaluate your new contact.

10. Opposites Attract - for Better or for Worse?

We often feel attracted to people who are totally different from us in their behavior and preferences. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, we find certain character qualities desirable that we ourselves lack. Freshly in love, we fully enjoy the difference. However, in the course of time, we gradually start wanting to "improve" our partner to make him or her more like us. That's where the problems start: we want our partner to change - and we want him or her usually to change exactly the quality that we found so attractive at the beginning. A solution to this dilemma would be to celebrate diversity and embrace similarity, but too many similarities can smother a relationship, while too many differences can smash it.

11. Committed Online Dating - a Real Possibility?

Lots of women and men are longing for a stable, long-term relationship. However, the fear to be disappointed and dumped makes it difficult to really commit and to create a meaningful world together. Paradoxically, many people spend quite a bit of energy on short emotional and sexual flings. Since a relationship exclusively based on emotions tends to be inherently unstable, the fear of commitment increases.

The number of uncommitted users of online dating sites is growing fast: they are registered with a variety of different sites and regularly date a variety of different potential partners - all the while hoping to find a still more perfect match. However, as soon as they encounter a problem in a real relationship, they withdraw into the virtual world of internet partner search. Instead of leaving a respectful good-bye note, they disappear without a word or any other form of feedback. This kind of behavior is harmful not just for the person in question but also for his or her potential partner.

The service that Lovebumble provides encourages commitment in relationships. Lovebumble tries to help people who are looking for stable long-term relationships fulfill their wish.

12. Making Your Dream Come True

Our thoughts and emotions create our reality. If you keep focusing for a certain length of time on what you really want there is a good chance that it will come true. This does NOT work, however, if you focus on the things that are NOT well and on what might go wrong.
You can create your reality in a powerful way if you move forward step by step without giving in to negative thoughts and without paying attention to the criticism and pessimism you may encounter.

It requires a bit of practice to align all your inner voices in a positive way so as to direct them towards the fulfillment of your one wish but it is possible as long as you heed the following steps:
1) Form a precise mental image of your desired relationship.
2) Fill this mental image with your energy and your full attentiveness.
3) Give your wish your permission to manifest itself in the real world (the most difficult step).
4) Practice NOT to dwell for too long on any doubts you might have.
5) Act as if the wish had come true already.

Move one stepforward at a time. It is like emptying out an attic stuffed with junk: the first step is the hardest one. However, once you have started, results come quickly.

Perhaps you would like to make an action plan: write down your goal, the steps it takes to achieve it, and how things will be when your wish has come true. Put this plan up at a place where you will see it every day.